A good motivation style theory has to recognize the fact that we all get motivated differently. In the practice of neuro-linguistic programming or “NLP” (think Paul McKenna) this fact is taken into account in many ways.
One of the more useful NLP theories is the concept of “away-from” and “towards” personalities.
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Of course, we each have both modes of operation as a part of the way we function as humans, but often one is dominant in each of us. Those in who the “towards” motivation dominates will be more affected by thoughts of future rewards.
Those with a primarily “away-from” motivational style, will be more affected by thoughts of escaping pain or trouble.
I.e, “I want a dream garden but that involves a lot of digging and tasks we could not be bothered to schedule, so the motivation could be a full crop of vegetables or new furniture for out there. Alternatively, away from, would be, going Vegan to improve digestion and health. Moving away from pain and discomfort.”
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Why not use this test to get an idea about which motivational style dominates your personality? Just read the following two descriptions of what having millions of dollars could mean to you.
1. You are safe and secure. You never have to return to your job or do anything you don’t want to do. You have the means to eliminate most of your problems easily. You have everything you need to be free and comfortable.
2. You have the house of your dreams, and your favourite car too. You buy anything you want for you and your friends, and you do what you want. You have the means to achieve any of your goals.
If the first description is more compelling to you, you primarily have an “away-from” personality. If you feel more motivated by the second description, you have a “towards” personality.
There are good and bad points to both types. “Towards” individuals make good entrepreneurs, for example, but often get into trouble because they don’t plan well enough to avoid problems. “Away-from” individuals manage things well and avoid problems, but don’t do as well at big goals
How do you use this motivation style theory and this knowledge about yourself to your best advantage?
Suppose you want to make more money and you are a “towards” person.
You would want to envision the things you’ll buy and do with that money, but also be aware that you may be glossing over the problems. If you are an “away-from” person, you’ll need to continually remind yourself what a mess it will be if you fail.
Otherwise you’ll lose your motivation once you reach some level of comfort.
It’s quite common for our motivation to wain, especially if you’ve reached that level of comfort. Then it may be time to review your goals, what is required to achieve them and perhaps a review of your activities over the past few months.
That means figuring out when you achieved most towards your goal and why that was.
What made you so excited at that time?
Why are you no longer excited about your goal?
You can play with this theory, and practice using this knowledge to influence others, but don’t forget to influence yourself. While it is useful for understanding and influencing others, this is a motivation style theory that is best for your own self improvement.
You have to keep igniting your motivation and keep at it until it is self-sustainable.
When you enter a certain mental and emotional state, it seems like all you can do is produce lots of your best stuff. It doesn’t matter what’s going on around you.
This is called your state of flow. The good news is everybody has one. It can take different forms. It definitely takes place at different times. It can be triggered by many things, you just have to figure out what you’ve been responding to the most.
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